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Reblog: Be The Light

This was originally done way back at the beginning of the year, and republished a few months later. Funny, it feels like I wrote it a lifetime ago. I’ve had several people follow me since then, and it bears repeating. It’s also part of a resolution I’ve made to return to being more positive and looking for solutions instead of just venting.

WordPress isn’t letting me reblog my own post, so I’m going to cut and paste it below.  I originally wrote this after getting REALLY fed up with all the negativity and hypocrisy on Twitter.  The advice speaks for itself, with one possible exception.  It IS written from a Christian perspective since it was a church service that inspired it.  None the less, I don’t believe that Christians have a monopoly on morals or leading by example.  What’s written here is a universal truth (for lack of better wording).

I’m sure I’m confusing people on twitter with my moderate’s disdain for the political extremes running amok there.  I’m grateful that some people seem to get it though.

My “No Politics” post didn’t make things as clear as I’d have liked.  I have TWO big problems with politics and the way people talk to others:

1) Issues are NEVER as simple as the extremists and demagogues on either side make them out to be.  For example, gangs are just one good reason for a border wall, BUT we have to overhaul our immigration system as well and allow good people a chance at the American Dream, take an honest look at what we may be doing to contribute to problems in Latin America, and see if we can do things to help them help themselves.

2) These extremists not only shut down thinking and discussion, they spread hate and poison.  There’s a principle of metaphysics that says hate only attracts more hate and conflict.  It doesn’t matter how righteous you THINK your cause is, if your answer is trashing and threatening violence against those you disagree with, you are part of the PROBLEM, not the solution.  You are also actively working to make the world a DARKER place.

I keep saying be more like Ghandi, Martin Luther King Jr, Mother Theresa, Jesus, Buddha, etc…  I have a perfect story that illustrates the point also.  The Christmas Eve service is the one time this heathen is guaranteed to turn up at church.  The closing part of the services; the same every year, are exactly why:

The Pastor talks about the need to carry the Christmas Spirit into and through the new year, and how the world is a dark place if everybody withholds their love, compassion and caring from the world.  To illustrate the point, the lights are turned off in the chapel.

Now, everybody is given a candle entering the service.  They’re all being lit as the Pastor speaks.  He tells everyone to keep the candles low at first also; withhold their light from the world metaphorically.  Then he starts talking about how people can be the light, and make the world a better place.  Then all 2000 people (It’s a big church) hold up their candles.  It’s beautiful and amazing the difference it makes

Afterwards everyone sings Silent Night and then the services are over.

Watch the YouTube video through to the end and see if it doesn’t have the same impact on you as it did me.  It’s alot of light, and it’s people wanting said light to better the world, NOT burn it down.  THINK about that. Remember the people you disagree with are human beings with legitimate reasons for feeling and thinking the way they do.  If you actually talk to them like human beings, you will PROBABLY find out that you have more in common than you realize once you get past artificial labels.

Think win-win and you can probably also find a solution that’s not perfect, but works for both of you.

BE THE LIGHT

The Strangest Dream

Which, believe it or not is actually also a Scottish bagpipe melody…  I’m talking an actual dream though. 🙂

Before I get to that, I am feeling better.  I really appreciate the well wishes from some of you also.  It’s been a big morale booster while getting through this back and neck pain.  I’m developing a plan of attack to fight back also; yoga, change of diet, etc…  I’m tired of living like this.  Enough there for now though. 🙂

 

 

The dream: This was either the night I made my last post or the next night.  I don’t remember the first part of the dream but apparently I died.  I went to the afterlife and found out it (the afterlife) was a series of video games.  The dead were put into these video games and had to learn the lessons built into the plots of the games and grow as people.  When they beat the video game and learned the lesson, they went on to the next video game.  All this was being explained to me by somebody else…

The ultimate idea was eventually you beat all the video games and became…  I don’t know if a perfect being is the ideal term, BUT… at least your best self, and a good enough person at that point to enter “heaven”.  Note the quotes because it wasn’t Heaven in the Christian sense.

 

I’m not sure what triggered such a bizarre dream.  It sounds ALOT like a twisted modern take on the idea of reincarnation.  I don’t even buy into the whole simulation theory stuff that became popular after The Matrix movies.  The only thing I can think of triggering this weirdness is that I do have “past life recall”, and it seems like from these “recalled” events that I’ve been stuck for ages…  Alot of trying to help those close to me and getting burned BADLY or doing the wrong thing for the right reasons in a couple of cases.

Between that pattern and the state of my life, I’m certainly feeling stuck, almost trapped.  Granted as I’ve said before, I’ve never been fully convinced of reincarnation either.  There are alot of rational explanations for most past life recollections.  Modern Christianity says one and done also.

 

Keep Being the Light

WordPress isn’t letting me reblog my own post, so I’m going to cut and paste it below.  I originally wrote this after getting REALLY fed up with all the negativity and hypocrisy on Twitter.  The advice speaks for itself, with one possible exception.  It IS written from a Christian perspective since it was a church service that inspired it.  None the less, I don’t believe that Christians have a monopoly on morals or leading by example.  What’s written here is a universal truth (for lack of better wording).

 

I’m sure I’m confusing people on twitter with my moderate’s disdain for the political extremes running amok there.  I’m grateful that some people seem to get it though.

My “No Politics” post didn’t make things as clear as I’d have liked.  I have TWO big problems with politics and the way people talk to others:

 

1) Issues are NEVER as simple as the extremists and demagogues on either side make them out to be.  For example, gangs are just one good reason for a border wall, BUT we have to overhaul our immigration system as well and allow good people a chance at the American Dream, take an honest look at what we may be doing to contribute to problems in Latin America, and see if we can do things to help them help themselves.

2) These extremists not only shut down thinking and discussion, they spread hate and poison.  There’s a principle of metaphysics that says hate only attracts more hate and conflict.  It doesn’t matter how righteous you THINK your cause is, if your answer is trashing and threatening violence against those you disagree with, you are part of the PROBLEM, not the solution.  You are also actively working to make the world a DARKER place.

I keep saying be more like Ghandi, Martin Luther King Jr, Mother Theresa, Jesus, Buddha, etc…  I have a perfect story that illustrates the point also.  The Christmas Eve service is the one time this heathen is guaranteed to turn up at church.  The closing part of the services; the same every year, are exactly why:

The Pastor talks about the need to carry the Christmas Spirit into and through the new year, and how the world is a dark place if everybody withholds their love, compassion and caring from the world.  To illustrate the point, the lights are turned off in the chapel.

Now, everybody is given a candle entering the service.  They’re all being lit as the Pastor speaks.  He tells everyone to keep the candles low at first also; withhold their light from the world metaphorically.  Then he starts talking about how people can be the light, and make the world a better place.  Then all 3000 people (It’s a big church) hold up their candles.  It’s beautiful and amazing the difference it makes

Bayside Church Candle Lighting & Silent Night

Afterwards everyone sings Silent Night and then the services are over.

Watch the YouTube video through to the end and see if it doesn’t have the same impact on you as it did me.  It’s alot of light, and it’s people wanting said light to better the world, NOT burn it down.  THINK about that. Remember the people you disagree with are human beings with legitimate reasons for feeling and thinking the way they do.  If you actually talk to them like human beings, you will PROBABLY find out that you have more in common than you realize once you get past artificial labels.

Think win-win and you can probably also find a solution that’s not perfect, but works for both of you.

BE THE LIGHT

Jesus in a Comic Book??

I got an email from the friend I co-conspire with on the Witchfire stories.  Apparently DC Comics had a plan to start a new comic book called “Second Coming”.  The premise was that Jesus returned to Earth and shares an apartment with a superhero.  DC cancelled the project after some major blow back.  The writer, Mark Russell, says he’s got another company lined up to do the project though.  part of the premise also apparently is that Jesus is keeping a low profile and won’t use his spiritual powers because people got too hung up on the loaves and fishes thing and ignore the message he had the first time around.

OK, I’m hardly the perfect Christian.  FAR from it to be honest, but I have major issues with this.  Many of them based on what comics have become the last decade.  Here is the email reply I sent to “Deanna Troi”:

 

I could definitely see where the concept could be interesting, if done right.  Overall, I’d have to lean towards the “don’t do it” side on this one however.  This based on your report that he really is the second coming.

First, DC is messing with peoples’ religion.  There’s a very specific set of prophecies around the second coming, and I really doubt DC or this other company would give them the consideration they’re due, until they need a big epic event to boost sales and then suddenly the superhero He’s rooming with is fighting the apocalypse in Jesus’s place.  Oh and it’ll get repeated as often as Ragnarok does in Thor comics despite each one being the “final” one.  I think peoples’ religious beliefs deserve a little more respect than all of that.

Granted, we could get into a separate conversation about characters like Thor and if they’re respectful of Wiccan and pagan beliefs, but up till about the time Jane Foster became Thor, I think Marvel mostly did a reasonable job there.  WAY off the rails after that, except for the movies, but that’s another conversation.

Getting back on topic, there’s the whole way that comics distort everything also.  Jesus only has “super powers” in the very broadest definition, being the literal son of God.  “He doesn’t want to use them as he figures that’s where things went wrong the first time”, is a textbook example.  Again, that’s assuming you relayed what was said 100% accurate.  First, it implies Jesus was running around making mistakes.  If so, he wasn’t perfect and His sacrifice for our sins would be meaningless and ineffective.  He did what was necessary to demonstrate faith in God and prepare Himself for the cross.

Now, Mark Russell had a partial point there though.  In my opinion, people are WAY too wrapped up in the victim game nowadays and delight in blaming God for not making their life a cakewalk.  Reality is, 90% of the suffering in the world is man’s inhumanity to man.  We’re here to be tested and grow as beings.  It’s ironic, really.  The rebellion in Heaven lead by Lucifer was supposedly over whether or not people would be puppets down here, OR be allowed to have free will and make their own mistakes and thus grow more.  Putting it in more “worldly” terms, look at the way helicopter kids turn out vs kids that are raised to be responsible and self-reliant.

As far as not listening to His words, that’s a LONG talk I’ll spare you, LOL.  Suffice it to say that the vast majority of folks are guilty of picking and choosing what they take from the Bible and Jesus’s teachings, and putting their own sometimes twisted spin on it all as well.  “Judge not” being the most famous example with many folks.  The proper interpretation is “Judge not unrighteous judgments lest you be judged”.  Point being, it’s perfectly right to say some things (rape, child abuse, murder, etc…) are wrong.

Remember some of the conversations we’ve had in the recent past about how far off the rails comics have gotten the last decade also.  The Muslim Green Lantern being the perfect example.  He was a terrorist before he got a power ring.  He never took responsibility for his actions though, and claimed it wasn’t his fault because he was just the driver and didn’t know the whole plan.  THEN he doubled down on it by being mad at the government for treating him like a criminal WHEN HE WAS!  Instead, in an effort to show how enlightened they are DC Comics played up the whole persecuted Muslim angle.  OH, and then they have him carry a gun on top of his power ring “just in case”.  He has no faith in the ring or himself, which makes for a crappy lantern, and DC actually made him look like the stereotypical evil violent Muslim by having to carry a gun also.  The entire story could have played out COMPLETELY different and helped the cause of decent Muslims by having him an innocent bystander who helped victims and having that courage earn him a power ring.

THESE are the same people that wanted to portray Jesus walking the Earth again.  Yeah, I’d be wary also, and am.

Personally, IF I were going to tackle the topic, I would have left it VERY much up in the air if the guy really was Jesus.  Make the audience wonder and make up their own minds.   He talks the talk, can do miracles, maybe keeps a low profile, won’t outright say he’s Jesus, but makes remarks that imply he might be, etc…

 

Why People Change For The Worse

BlindZanyGirl recently asked in her blog why people seem to change.  You think you know them, you’re friends, and then they just either flip personalities out of the blue, or change over time.  Given that it would take a complete blog post to answer this question, here I am instead of in her reply section.

Side note here: If you’re not following her blog, shame on yah.  She’s a talented writer, and can give all of us lessons on strength to endure hardships.

Getting back on track, I feel like I’m fairly qualified to speak on this one.  I’m not a shrink, but I’ve read alot, and more importantly I’ve dealt wit this same issue quite a bit.  Well, first there’s the obvious answer: the other person was a charming manipulator along the lines of a sociopath that was out for something, even if only attention.  It’s easy to slap that label on others also.  We regularly villify “the other side” in politics all the time anymore, and rarely with any logic behind it.  None the less, 1 in every 100 people is a sociopath, so…

Then there’s the compassionate explanation; the other person is going through too much, doesn’t know how to talk about it, etc…  Finally they hit a breaking point, and start to withdraw from everything to simplify their life and lower their drama.  They lash out at whoever is an easy target and not part of the specific core of their life.  Much like the last explanation, I think this one is overused.  Even worse, it becomes a free pass issued by some folks.  Me, I’m of the “just because you’re hurting doesn’t give you the right to hurt others” camp.  There are polite ways to withdraw from things and relationships.

All that said, let’s get down to the cause that nobody talks about; unrealistic expectations.  This is REALLY common in internet land.  People talk online, get to know each other…  They think they know each other better than they do, and expect them to be there for them more than a casual online friendship allows.  It can really become a downward spiral also.  The needy person can’t fully get what they need from talking and moral support, so they demand / hope for more of it.  When that isn’t enough, they either get stalkerish or flip out completely and go “dark side”.  This whole series of events is actually pretty common on the ‘net.  Let’s face it, the internet is full of introverts of varying degrees trying to find acceptance and a voice.

On a personal note, I can tell you that I had THREE friends in Champions Online that were doing this to me all at once, and in a MAJOR way.  Two in my guild and one outside of it.  I was so emotionally drained by it, I started to become like them.

That’s another aspect of this I should mention.  Normally something I’d save for my spiritual blog, but it merits being a part of this.   A few of the books I’ve read on being an empath point out that all human interaction is an exchange of energy.  You can put that in psychological or literal spiritual terms and it still works.  When you talk, you’re giving energy.  When you listen, you’re receiving.  An ideal conversation is balance that way.

Negative interactions come down to trying to provoke a reaction to get energy from the other person.  The mad person, guilt tripper, etc… is starving for energy, so they try to get a reaction out of you.  If you’re not at all spiritual, it sounds silly, but think about how tired you feel after dealing with that kind of person.  If you are an empath like me, this kind of person is drawn to you because they sense your nurturing side and energy.  We’re actually a bit more susceptible to getting overly drained and blowing a gasket when pushed too far though.

Long talk short, the best thing anyone can do is realize there’s a limit to what you can get from an online friendship.  Don’t expect too much from others, and be grateful for what they do offer.  If the other person is expecting too much, establish some boundaries.  Be gentle at first, but don’t be afraid to get firmer if they don’t listen.  If that doesn’t work, walk away, calmly and politely.

One last piece of advice: Communicate honestly, openly and politely with everyone.  There’s an old piece of advice, proverb, whatever that says “To be unclear is to be unkind”.  People can’t know they’re doing something wrong if you don’t tell them.  Even an empath like me only picks up on emotions, not the reason behind them.  Be kind, be willing to listen to what they have to say also, and work it out.  As many problems as I’ve had from “psychic vampires”, I’ve had far more friendships end just because people wouldn’t speak up about misunderstandings that could have been easily cleared up with a little dialog.

Consequences

I’ve written alot about the hate I see online and elsewhere.  I make no secret that the hate I see that disturbs me most is that coming from various social justice proponents.  The WHY of that is that I feel it ultimately hurts the cause by turning off those in the middle and creating a backlash.

History is full of political examples of that type.  The pendulum swings too far in one direction, creating a tyranny, then people rise up in backlash and create another tyranny of an opposite nature.  The Romans and the Vandals, the French Monarchy and Napoleon, The Czars of Russia and the Communists, etc…

It’s true with social issues also.  Those convinced against their will are of the same opinion still, and angrier about it.  Let me get to the photographic proof here.  I’m seeing more and more of this kind of shirt around:

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“Nope; Don’t Care”

That’s the attitude (or worse) that I’m worried about all the hate creating.  How far back the other way will the bad folks try to push everything if that becomes the response to everything?   We NEED to return to talking to each other, using logic, and tempering it with heart.

Not Backing Down

I”m just about properly caught up on all those 114 email notifications and all the ones that followed after it over the last 11 hours.

One thing I did discover is that the closed-mindedness of Twitter tried to follow me here.  One person I *thought* was a friend went on a tirade about evil conservative (they HAD to be conservative) women criticizing a celebrity for having been a stripper. Overall, I agreed with her post.  I mainly thought she went over the top with the venomous way she handled it.

I *tried* to point out that she missed an opportunity to try to reason with these women.  That rather then trying to oppress women and derail female empowerment, they feel (right or wrong) that stripping and sex work perpetuates the stereotype of women as nothing but sex objects.  If she tried to communicate with these folks she might find they shared concerns and could find a middle ground they could both live with.

Her response: Delete my comment, and remove me from her follows / followed by lists.  Very mature.

First, if you’re going to post something, you should be enough of an adult to be prepared for polite disagreement.  If you’re not, turn off your comments.  You have EVERY right to expect that disagreement to remain polite and open to your counterpoints.  I’m tired of the hate I see everywhere though.  I challenged her thinking because I thought she was capable of rising above that venom.  Sometimes, being the light means means you have to politely stand firm against the darkness too.

TRIGGER WARNING: I’m Back!!!

LOL.  It’s been a crazy last 48 hours.  The last 4 of which I just spent catching up on thee 114 email notifications I had from WordPress AND writing another spiritual blog post.  More there in a minute.

The funeral went reasonably well.  The priest was mush mouthed and didn’t seem to know the rituals.  Maybe it’s a Catholic thing.  I think everything has to be exactly by the book.  Anyway, short but good ceremony there.  A little bit of unspoken conflict back at my parents’ (well, mom’s now) house afterwards, but I’ll spare folks the personal drama.

Realizing how short life can be, along with the more positive experiences on twitter and here have made me more determined to get focused with my writing and a few other resolutions.  Not fanatical midlife crisis level or anything, but it all snapped things back into focus.

 

The spiritual blog post and trigger warning joke above are about the need for people in general, and Empaths specifically to have reasonable boundaries, and how some people use false compassion and guilt tripping to tell others they have no right to said boundaries.  It was inspired by post in a followed blog about how “walls don’t work”.  The spiritual blog post should have made clear that I do NOT lump the author of that post in said guilt tripper category.  They just genuinely don’t believe walls work.  The post DID remind me of all the hateful things I’ve seen on the subject by other people though, and how many times I’ve been guilt tripped and manipulated for trying to have boundaries..

So, with that in mind, and wanting to discuss the idea that boundaries of any type are bad, I wrote that post.  If you’re interested, take a look.  If you’re the type that’s easily offended by anything other than far left views, consider this a trigger warning and avoid it.

False Compassion

The simple premise is that we all need boundaries and walls.  People need occasional quiet time, writers need to be able to focus on their work, etc…  Walls DO have to have gates to let the good in though, and the only truly evil wall is the one designed to keep people from exiting (ie the Berlin Wall).

One From the Spiritual Blog

I squeezed in another page on the spiritual blog today, as so many people seem to be struggling with letting go of drama, or having self-doubt hold them back.  I needed to remind myself about the exercise described in this post also.

So what does this exercise do and who does it benefit?  It’s for people who feel really beat down by an issue.  If you’re the type who watches these Navy SEAL-esque “Just Do It” videos that so many gurus seem to be putting out, and only get annoyed by them and feel you can’t do it, this might be for you.  The trouble with those rah-rah videos and blog posts is that they don’t take into account that you have to see the possibility of success for them to be motivated.

If you’ve been so beat down for years by a problem that you can’t see that possibility…  That defeat is actually ingrained in your system, this can help.  The only other option I’ve seen work is when a person hits rock bottom and gets sick and tired of being sick and tired.  Really though, who wants to go THAT route?

The principle behind the exercise is that issues so big have a dual nature.  There’s the energy or emotional component and the mental processes (memories and thought patterns) as well.  The mental processes are what most self improvement and psychology focus on.  What they miss is that the spiritual and emotional energy can and do act as an anchor to keep those memories and beliefs stuck in your head.

Cut out the energetic component and the thought patterns lose their reinforcement.  THEN, you actually CAN just do it.

Here’s the exercise:

Advanced Clearing Exercise