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Frustrations

Frustrations have once again kept me from doing any posting here.

First, let me get my warning out of the way; RANT ahead!

At first, I thought it was annoyance over cutting ties with the person I used to collaborate with on my Witchfire stories. Well, sort of collaborate. We tried to create a shared world with some crossovers for our stories. That ended over their insistence upon demonizing anyone they disagreed with politically or socially, and me saying one time too often to look at other POVs and not stereotype entire groups just because a media talking head and their sheeple said so.

So many of the problems in society today are caused by people on BOTH sides of various issues having blinders on like that. Sadly most of them are otherwise decent people. They just can’t be bothered to work past their personal biases. Too easy to hate because somebody told them that their personal problems are the fault of that group over there. Old trick though; it’s worked for Hitler, groups like the Proud Boys, and the FAR Left as well. “Hate! Fear! Follow me blindly! I’ll lead you to salvation”.

95% of the time these would-be saviors are only exploiting people for their own selfish ends by playing off one group against another.

Need I say it AGAIN?!? Judge people as INDIVIDUALS instead of using group-think and blindly applying labels that promote conflict and division.

AND THEN THERE WAS THE BLOG…

First, let me say I hate some of the new changes to WordPress. Even using a spacer insert is harder now since there’s no box, just a little circle now that you move up and down. The (picture) cropping and resize tool doesn’t work for me. They’ve even done away with the ability to select specific font size from a drop down. Now it has to be keyed in if you want to change it. Every “improvement” to the block editor seems to make it a bigger mess.

Some sort of background changes have me locked out of replying to or even liking half the blogs I follow AGAIN. This is the third or fourth time it’s happened since I started here. If I haven’t liked or commented in your blog in a while and I usually do, that’s very likely why. This change no doubt so WP can data mine blogs more easily.

Then we get back to PEOPLE as relates to blogging…

First, there’s my ongoing gripe over USERS masquerading as followers. If you’re doing THIS, you’re not reading and you don’t care about anything anyone else has to write about:

Doing that regularly just says you’re only using people to gain followers and pad your fragile ego. It’s happening increasingly from people who I’ve made effort to genuinely interact with on WP too, or at least used to. And I’m talking them doing 20+ likes in 1 or 2 minutes. I have a few pics of THAT also. I figured 8 likes was enough to make the point though.

If you don’t have time to read and have no desire to do so, just don’t reply instead of using people for your vanity. I’d rather have 5 followers like Refarmer, Joanne the Geek, Sheree, BigSkyBuckeye and a few others who will actually read, than have 10,000 fraud followers.

Then there’s another issue that’s been simmering for a long time also; appeasement and self censorship. I left and loudly denounced Twitter for similar experiences, but really WP isn’t all that different in a few regards. I speak out against some of the heavy handed aspects of the SJW movement (even though I support the overall movement / idea), then I’m evil. I have to push anything spiritual over to another blog because I might offend religious people. Can’t believe in chi and God after all *rolleyes*

Same idea with some of my adult writing. I sort of give that one a partial pass as I don’t want people to have to worry about anything vaguely NSFW here, and WP is absolutely one of the worst sites out there for providing any sort of age check tool for that kind of content. Even just an “Are you 18?” button pop-up would be nice!

Maybe NextDoor.com is a better overall comparison. Can’t write anything there other than garage sales and recipes without offending somebody. I’ve felt increasingly the same way here.

Write about self-defense or martial arts, you’re violent.

Talk about RESPONSIBLE gun ownership (and I have a very negative opinion of some gun owners), and you’re going to go out and do a mass shooting.

OK, enough said. The point is I’m sick to freaking death of judgy fucks presuming they know what others are thinking and feeling, AND that said judging fucks have the imagined godlike wisdom to tell others with absolute certainty how to live their lives or even what they should say. Yes, I’m sick of the “this means you’re a that and need to change NOW” crowd.

I’m NOT advocating people be allowed nor encouraged to run around acting like asses with no filter either. Can’t we find a happy medium though?

Truth; I’m frustrated at feeling like I can’t be me. I’m shutting away and compartmentalizing pieces of me to try to appease people who are never going to read my writing or buy any book I write anyway.

I’m not sure how quick I’m going to really get back to posting “full time” here again. I do know that when I start though, I’m going to be more ME. Politics I will still refuse to cover. The waters there are just too muddied, the real truth too hard to find and I think everyone is corrupt. Adult content is staying at SilksErotica.

Anything else is one the table though. I’ll do my best to discuss topics in an intelligent, calm manner. I’ll try to be positive and upbeat too. Trust me, I’m sick of bitchy posts here

Don’t like a particular subject in the future? I’ll make sure the headlines are clear so you can bypass it. That, and a return to days having regular topics, are as good as you’ll get.

Attacks on Religion are Getting Old

No, I’m not going to be advocating for any religion; this one is a rant about having respect for others’ beliefs.

It was prompted by a blog post I saw recently with a little parable about how spiritual people were superior to religious ones because spiritual people have never killed anyone in the name of their god (or gods).

I’ve seen faulty analysis like this for years, along with imagined intellectual superiority by atheists; mocking people for believing in any sort of higher power. The irony here is that I’d consider myself more spiritual than religious. HOWEVER, I do strongly believe in respecting others’ beliefs and opinions, at least in as much as they’re willing to show the same level of tolerance.

Before I really get going, let me first state that I know the people I’m going to complain about are NOT indicative or reflective of the entire groups they represent. They are, however, the most vocal minority within each of these groups.

The Faulty Logic:

Let’s start with the easiest point to dispute. I’ve heard everybody from atheists, to spiritual people, to western wannabe Buddhists and Neo-pagans / Wiccans talk about the evils of organized religion, and how they persecute and kill anyone who disagrees with them.

The most obvious point is one that seems to fly over the heads of everybody nowadays, be it political debate, social issues or this topic: Hypocrisy.

How does one blanket condemn entire groups of people for something and then presume to hold themself up as more enlightened and morally superior? At best, that’s the same sort of tribalism that’s being condemned. If one wants to prove the superiority of their path, the only TRUE way to do is by elevating their own thinking and actions, NOT by tearing down those of others. Yes, that goes for you religious folks too.

Reality is, NO group is perfect. Zero… NONE.

I’ve seen “spiritual” people lie, cheat, steal, use and abuse people, etc… Many of the global elites who have started more recent wars have described themselves as “spiritual” also. They do evil in the name of their own selfish, petty desires, which, ironically can be argued to be their gods in some cases.

Eastern religions are NOT pacifist either. Some of the most brutal, effective and battlefield tested martial arts come from their teachings. Shaolin monks were some of the greatest warriors in China and often conscripted by the Emperor as troops. That’s the past, and they’re evolving you say? True, but the same is true of all belief structures.

Atheists; well communists are the largest block of atheists. “Religion is the opiate of the masses” – Marx. Do I *REALLY* have to get into how many people that Lenin, Stalin, Mao and Pol Pot massacred in the name of their better world?

I’ve seen “enlightened” Wiccans lecture others about karma and then freely throw literal curses over the slightest offense. Many of the loudest critics of how they’re perceived and treated by religious people, at least that I’ve met, have been pretty blindly prejudiced against religious folks themselves. They also forget the shoe used to be on the other foot with pagans enslaving, murdering and persecuting Christians, Jews and Muslims, and even each other.

It’s In The Past, and Sometimes Distorted:

It’s a bitter irony of modern times that nobody wants to be held accountable for their current actions, yet they’re quick to condemn others for actions in the far past.

Slavery and religious wars are two great examples of this on a macro level.

Politicians are quick to invoke God to try to lend themselves an aura of righteousness where none typically exists, but a true “holy war” probably hasn’t been fought since the crusades.

Speaking of the Crusades… This is a prime example of distorted history. The Crusades were not wars of aggression by Christians. They were wars to take back lands from invading Muslims, who had made it as far as Spain before being driven back to the Middle East.

No, I’m not condemning Muslims either. It was a different time, and I believe the wars were fought just as much over land and limited resources as they were ideology. The “different time” thing is the biggest factor here however. If you want to be judged by your own actions and NOT those of an ancestor, or somebody loosely connected to your past, then extend that same right to others.

Another historical distortion; the Salem Witch Trails. They went on for almost a year. Only 20 actually died directly from trials though. Another 5 died as an indirect result, and five more are questionable. The trials were about greedy people going after neighbor’s lands, other petty revenge schemes, and bratty girls looking for attention, more than they were about religion.

An Ugly Unspoken Truth:

Here’s another reality that just about everyone has seen if they’re willing to be honest:

Many, but not all, of the biggest critics of religion simply just want to be able to run amok as they see fit and not be told there are any consequences to their actions, nor any values they should adhere to.

These same people would freely complain about how corrupt capitalism has become (as an example) while fighting to remove any sort of moral or religious teachings from society.

How many of you know that for ages the Catholic church considered the charging of (financial) interest to be a serious sin for example? If that single idea were in place, would we have mega-corporations and evil giant banks controlling economies? Unfortunately, that idea went out the door about the time of the Protestant reformation.

My points here being that not all change is good, and that organized religion has had good and bad points or moments. ANY organization made up of humans does.

As a final point before wrapping up… Every religion and philosophy this side of satanism and pure hedonism has some form of a “code of conduct” along the lines of the 10 commandments. I really doubt anyone can make a rational argument how guidelines against lying, stealing, murdering, etc… make society worse. One can split hairs like The Pharisees all day about when bending the truth is OK, but as a general rule, any sane person is going to agree that lying is bad.

Likewise, just because people fail to live up to the ideal does NOT make the ideal wrong. It means we need to strive harder, and help each other along towards it, even if we all never fully achieve it. That’s what an ideal is all about.

Instead, we try to tear down each other’s ideals and step on our fellow human being in order to give ourselves an imagined boost up. That’s what inspired this rant in the first place.

Wrapping It Up:

None of the above is to say religion is perfect or has done everything right. As I said earlier, no system run by human beings is going to be. All of the above criticisms can be applied to a small but overly vocal minority of Christians, Jews, Muslims, etc… as well as spiritual people, atheists and such.

If you want people to change, you have to lead them by example though. Beating somebody down physically or verbally doesn’t make you correct, it just makes you a bully. Seek understanding and lead by example instead. Show them by example how your ideas are better instead of insulting and telling them they’re inferior.

Treat others the way you want to be treated. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

If your ideas truly are better, they’ll naturally catch on without you having to beat down others to promote them.

Just When I Thought it was Safe to Come Back…

Yep, I thought it was safe to come back. We just finished up prepping the house for sale. Took a few fights but we got there after a marathon last minute work session. In that regard, I feel like the weight of a literal galaxy has been lifted from my shoulders too. I think the THREE hours of sleep I finally got last night were better than any eight hours of “sleep” in the last 7 years.

I try to come back to WordPress to play catch up on the well over 200 notifications I have, and I stumble across a reblog dripping with venomous (and quite imaginary) moral superiority and utter contempt for people who have anything negative to say regarding the homeless, drug addicted or mentally ill.

Before I go any further, I should point out that *I* have extensive and very real experience here (unlike the person reblogged). I’ve also gone on record right here in this blog taking a very balanced view of the situation.

Round 1

Round 2

Yes, I had a little fun with the first post title, but it was inspired by just this kind of ignorant hate. What this child doesn’t realize, but the reblogger should have, is that attacking people for having a different view only tells them that you’re unreasonable, care nothing for their experiences and that they should cling to their view tighter and consider you hostile.

That REALLY makes the world a better place, doesn’t it?? Complain about hate, judgment and divisiveness and presume to fix them by adding to them.

It also leads to compassion burnout when the average person is told over and over again that they’re filth for not making themselves impoverished to deal with whatever cause.

I saw… or heard… this for the first time back in the early 1990s. I used to listen to the Neal Boortz radio show out of Atlanta GA. Neal made a ton of sense at times, and just seemed to be a complete ass at others. One of his most infamous rants back in the day was when he declared himself “Sick to damned death of the poor”.

LONG explanation for it short, the tirade that followed was all about people like this blogger passing judgment and hating on him for what he’d worked his ass off to earn. He even went on to say that he thought society should make sure they had some sort of roof over their head and not starve, but he was sick of being beat up over them.

I didn’t get it then. I still think his language was overly inflammatory also. I get it now though. Every time I turn around, I’m being accused of being a racist, a genocidal nut (because I own a gun), an intolerant hate monger, selfish and uncaring.

In the mean time, I’m dealing with my car being broken into and vandalized, attempted home robberies, destruction of our front lawn and sprinkler system, sabotaging the camera system we had to put in to slow all of the above down, AND several near assaults and one actual assault that I blogged about.

Funny thing too… I didn’t shoot the homeless guy that assaulted me. I didn’t even bring my gun outside because that’s illegal in California (home defense only). Hell I barely fought back physically and tried to escape instead. But *I* am the problem and a genocidal nut.

You wonder where the “kiss my ass” attitude comes from with people that are fed up? There’s your answer.

It’s the same reason Trump got elected too. The mainstream got tired of being villainized for playing by society’s rules and decided to fight venom with venom. Looks what it’s reduced the country to also. Politics is completely disgusting anymore, and the Democrats are every bit as much to blame as Trump.

These oh so enlightened people like to mock the Bible, but if there was ever a piece of wisdom they should live by it’s “Remove the beam from your own eye before criticizing someone else for the speck in their eye” Paraphrased, but point made.

You want to change the world? Start by changing yourself. Obama’s best line ever was “Be the change you want to see in others”. The only way to truly change anyone is to improve yourself, set aside your own biases and then try to understand where that other person is coming from. Then work with them for change that benefits everyone.

I’ve put forth solutions in my earlier linked blog posts. I’ve ALSO called for increased accountability regarding existing programs that deal with these issues. There’s waste and graft galore. I’ve said we should help people get on their feet. I’ve said people need to get treatment. I’ve also said we need to hold the remaining percentage of the homeless responsible for their actions and demand that they play by society’s rules.

So yes, I’ve talked the talk and walked the walk. Unlike many of the shrill voices, I have first hand knowledge too. I was even homeless twice, but never for long.