The Joys and Pains of True Empathy

I talked briefly about empathic ability in my recent post about cynicism. It’s something I’ve lived with for my entire life. It’s also something that’s hard for an outsider (for lack of a better term) to understand. As the cliche goes, you have to live it to truly understand it. None the less, I’m going to do my best to describe the experience here. I’ve made up my mind that hiding what I am has caused more problems than it’s prevented.

True “psychic” empathy is more than just being able to deeply appreciate what another person or group is going through. It’s literally feeling the same thing they’re feeling, on such a complete level that it’s extremely difficult to distinguish between your own feelings and those of others.

That clipart is mostly correct. Most empaths only pick up on a person’s past if that person is actively dwelling on it at the time.

The concept is relatively simple to understand on the surface, but TRULY grasping it… Well reading about it is roughly the same as reading about sex as opposed to actually experiencing a mind-blowing orgasm. Suffice it to say it makes some of us a bit agitated when we’re just labeled as overly-sensitive or dramatic. I even dislike the term Highly Sensitive People as it minimizes and misrepresents the experience.

If that sounds dramatic, consider this; even a weak empath isn’t dealing with simply one other person’s emotions. They’re dealing with anyone in their immediate area as well as anyone they’re particularly close to emotionally, AND any residual energy in the vicinity as well. I’ll explain that in a minute. A truly strong empath can feel and be influenced by emotions over a much greater distance. We wont pick up every person’s emotions on a level to single out everyone. It’s more like a chorus of emotion, for good or bad. There’s NO turning it off either. It’s an every moment of every day of your entire life thing.

Imagine being Kenobi in that scene and not just being aware of what happened to Alderaan, but actually living the emotions of every inhabitant as the planet was blown apart. Extreme illustration but it makes the point. With the widespread hate from all sides anymore, that’s almost what being an Empath feels like anymore.

Residual Energy:

Also known as psychic imprints. This happens when something traumatic happens in an area. The emotions felt during that event are so strong, they actually leave residual psychic energy in that area. Something like ongoing child abuse in a house as an easy example. This could go all the way up to something as horrific as the nazi concentration camps. One personal example is that I was cleaning an ambulance years ago as part of community service work. The vibes of intense pain felt while in the rear of the vehicle were enough to literally cause me physical pain and headaches. Hospitals also tend to be uncomfortable for me.

Yes, (Some) People Suck…

I could get into actual psychic vampires here, but they need a post all their own to explain. No, I’m talking about things like people expecting an empath to be compassionate and caring while bombarding them with hate, or expecting us to be literal mind readers instead of emotion detectors. It’s called empathy, not telepathy. I’ve never encountered a telepath, so I can’t vouch for their existence. Either way, I may be able to detect that somebody is mad, but not what about. Dealing with an empath requires just as much communication as with a normal person, sometimes a little more to help them clarify what they’re sensing.

Oh and while we’re at it, let’s not forget the belligerent skeptics. Regular skeptics, I understand. It’s hard for something like psionic abilities to meet standards of objective scientific proof, just due to lack of physical evidence. Belligerent skeptics that attack what they don’t understand… mock and belittle people or label them as crazy… THOSE offend me.

My own father tried to have me committed back in ’93. I was lucky that the shrinks he talked to were moral and said I didn’t pose any danger to myself or others. Almost every person with any sort of spiritual gift that I’ve talked to has had similar experiences. So yeah, I’ve been slow to talk about it.

The large number of scammers out there in the field of the paranormal do a ton of damage to the credibility of any study of subtle energy. Cable TV shows have only made it worse also. PKE meters?!? Please! You can wave a regular multimeter’s leads in the air and pick up minor differences in readings just from stirring up the ambient static electricity in the air.

There Are Actual Benefits Though…

First is the most direct benefit; being able to focus in on a person and tell what they’re feeling. Very handy in any sort of effort to resolve a situation.

Since distance limitations are much less with people one truly cares about, empathy can be used to let you know if they’re having a rough time and need some support, and if one is a fairly strong empath, even an approximate location for those people.

Probably the biggest benefit for me has been what I jokingly label my “Spidey-Sense”. Being aware of genuinely hostile emotional energy coming from a person or location has enabled me to avoid countless dangerous situations over the course of my life, sometimes without physically seeing any threat.

There’s a few other minor perks, but it’s later than late now and I’m falling asleep. Thus I’m just going to get this thing posted.

I May Be Cynical, BUT I’m NOT Evil

Can I Tell You A Story?

That picture in honor of CM Punk being back in the WWE as of this past weekend. We both have a bad habit of speaking truth to power. With that in mind, I’ve been doing a fair amount of thinking the last few days, AND have quite a bit to say.

Am I Cynical?

Yes, I am. I work hard not to be, but every time I’m not, something blows up on me. Look at just the recent past:

• I Spent 5 years up all night chasing off thieves and drug dealers from our street in Sacramento and the park across the street. All the while the police offered only minimal support and the “compassionate” people attacked me as a monster… Often later to report online that the people I’d flagged were robbing houses on their street.
• The RV we rented to travel to Tennessee had a heavy carbon monoxide leak that nearly killed us.
• The moving company took almost 6 months to deliver our furniture and when they finally showed up, a good portion was damaged or missing. No cooperation from the Feds or Florida law enforcement.
• Our rented apartment had upstairs neighbors that ran their dogs all around their apartment all night every night. The police nor the apartment management did nothing.
• My other half got fired for having COVID. A violation of federal law, but again no help.
• We buy a house and get defrauded out of our life savings, along with a $200,000 mortgage we still owe. With a bad foundation, roof, asbestos, radon, and termites for starters, the house was unlivable.
• The legal battle over the house resulted in our attorney bilking us for another $10,000 over the course of a year, and accomplishing nothing in that time, not even getting past initial discovery statements.
• After 2 years, we got told by the judge that the home inspector and seller grossly misrepresenting things to us was in fact NOT fraud and just good capitalism.
• I catch endless shit from coworkers because I actually try to work and don’t spend all day on my phone like them. Hostile work environment… Mark Twain was right; few things in life are harder to tolerate than a good example
• I get carpal tunnel in both arms / wrists and get completely defrauded there as well. 3 months now on “short term disability” with no income. Doctors falsify medical reports and it’s all just good capitalism again because it’s important to protect major businesses.
• My cat dies because our vet is too incompetent to identify MAJOR cancer until the cat is at deaths door.
• Previously not blogged about: My other half’s cousin waits till 2 1/2 days before his wedding to feign an invitation (via text no less) and expects us to have time to find clothes and gifts.
• We caught COVID from the first of that same idiot’s three wedding parties. Complications from said COVID nearly killed my other half.
• Between the COVID, not attending the wedding and calling out the cousin on his behavior, we’ve been disowned by that side of the family.

And the fun part is, that’s just the last 7 or 8 years. We don’t have time or space to cover the emotional abuse from my mother while growing up, the physical abuse from my drunken first step-father (that ended when he tried to shoot us all one night), a horrific first marriage, the absolute love of my life, upon hearing about my childhood telling me I was too screwed up to have a relationship with despite everything being good up till that point… etc…

So yes, having endured all of that and remained a relatively sane, compassionate person, I don’t think it’s too much to hope that I can comment in a blog without somebody going out of their way to take offense and put me or my words in the worst possible light.

Who IS Evil?

The people I view as truly evil are the ones who turn society against itself for their own profit. Fear mongering politicians and news people are easy examples. It goes all the way down to the leadership of special interest groups and other individuals with too much influence.

Let’s take the example from the other day; Margaret Atwood. I’ll get lots of hate here because she’s been given sainthood status by too many. The Handmaiden’s Tale created something far beyond a dystopian story though. It created a world where there was no such thing as a decent male. FAR too many women jumped on the idea, and everything that they remotely disliked became indicative of The Handmaiden’s Tale coming to pass.

Did any of them consider that labeling every man on the planet as a sexist enslaver of women was morally wrong and every bit as hateful as the society portrayed in the story? Did it bother them that the idea meant that their fathers, bothers, sons, grandfathers, etc… were automatically scum?

Even dystopian fiction should have some limits to how it portrays groups. Blanket portrayals of ANY group is morally wrong. Taking the idea and hammering it as true in the real world is even worse yet.

The sad thing is people with all their petty hatreds are too blind to see that hate only creates more hate. THAT is what I pointed out in that one blog comment. Call somebody an asshole, and SURPRISE, they’ll probably be offended enough to act like an asshole in response. Doubly so when you have “leaders” on the other side who will be quick to tell the “assholes” that they’re under attack and victims now. In the example above, the rhetoric coming from that book resulted in everything from the Red Pill movement, further pushes against abortion, and even the Men Going Their Own Way movement. The hostility between the sexes is the worst I’ve seen in my lifetime.

That’s just one volatile example. Police vs Black Lives Matter, Racial Conflict, Class Warfare, Political Garbage, you name it. Conflict everywhere I look with only the demagogues on both sides promoting the hate actually benefitting from it while everyone else suffers. They’re too blind to see it’s not the other side causing it, it’s the so-called leadership telling them to hate.

Society is BROKEN

That blindness is going to be the end of society. Everybody has been told they’re a special victim and fighting for the salvation of the world though… That it has to be saved from those evil bastards on the other side. It’s nothing more than cheap ego aggrandizement and fear mongering via promotion of victimhood (instead of empowerment) and the idea that only they can be the superheroes who save the world from itself.

In a thinking society, this trick wouldn’t work on anyone over 12 years old, but we’ve been trained to let the internet and the demagogues do the thinking for us. Questioning ideas, encouraging polite debate… That shows you’re one of THEM!

A Complete Lack of Empathy

That’s what the above behavior demonstrates. Those last two quote pictures say it all though, so I’m going to largely leave it at that. What I do want to continue on with is why all of this drives me so figuratively crazy.

I’ve mentioned it in passing here a few times, I had a separate blog about it all as well (still up, just hasn’t been posted in for years)… I’m an Empath. I don’t mean the hijacked modern definition of a person who essentially isn’t a sociopath. I mean it in the psychic sense. I rarely talk about it because you get labeled as insane for believing in such things.

Star Trek: The Next Generation had the most accurate portrayal of the talent with Counsellor Troi’s character. What the show never got right is that being an empath is as much if not more a curse than a blessing because of how it works. I literally FEEL others’ emotions and it can be very difficult to separate outside emotions from my own if I don’t keep very calm and a strong focus on that discernment.

It’s more than cold reading also. I can sense people I’m “close” to, even at great distances. A former friend in Perth Australia always got annoyed at me when she’d log on and I’d ask what’s wrong before she said anything.

That last part in the above graphic… That WAS true with me. Over the last decade though, I’ve felt an ever increasing hate and sense of entitled victimhood from everywhere. It’s like drowning in a sea of toxic garbage. The hate is bad enough. The sense of self-entitled sanctimonious victimhood that so often accompanies it is ten times more toxic feeling though. “MY suffering is deeper and more righteous than anyone elses!”. You know that that sounds like to me?

Especially when it comes from somebody who claims to be so evolved, enlightened and compassionate, yet full of hate. It’s turned the above mentioned “naive optimism” in me into a cynical belief that the masses out there are too blinded by their own fear and ego to see they’re being led by the nose to society’s literal destruction.

ONE Good Thing…

that came out of all the drama with trying to mend fences with the former friends, all the blog drama and some other crap is that I’m FINALLY over taking other people’s attitudes and opinions to heart. The former friend who played games while I tried to repair things… HER loss, not mine. I acted in good faith, she didn’t. Same with all this past blogging drama like when I had LONG discussions with Liz about being a gun owner and believing strongly responsible gun ownership, and that rights come with responsibilities. She then turned around and did a blog post labeling all gun owners as murdering psychopaths.

Empathic ability meant that kind of betrayal hurt. NOW, it’s in perspective. Screw her and her hate. I’m exactly the opposite of what she accused me of being. From now on, I truly will be blogging for me, not for approval.

Polite discussion will always be welcome. Attacks? Well…

Reblog from Kelly’s Quest

I’ve been a bit wrapped up with real life the last couple of days. This however seemed particularly relevant to my last few posts on lies and manipulations. That on top of being yet another example of excellent sage advice found at Kelly’s blog.

Nightly Spiritual Quote #691 Buddhism

Life Goes On

I’ve been trying for almost two weeks to get this written. Even a more catchy headline has eluded me. For the sake of getting it out and jumping back into writing, I’m simply going to spit it out… “It” being a few things actually.

First an Update on the Carpal Tunnel Syndrome.

As reported in my last post, I developed carpal tunnel syndrome in both wrists while at my job. At this point, I’ve mostly recovered. My right is 95% back to normal. The left still has minor weakness as well as numbness and tingling all the way up to the elbow. Occasionally it even makes it to the shoulder.

Lest I be be overly dramatic (which I’m trying to avoid), my left arm is ok unless I do something that requires more than casual wrist strength. I can type just fine, for example. Same with pushing a shopping cart. Using our heavy cast iron cookware is uncomfortable though. Even that seems to be VERY slowly improving with time.

Corporate Doctors and Lawyers Absolutely Suck

I previously mentioned (last post again) that I was having trouble finding a doctor that wasn’t BSing me; either telling me I’m fine or crippled for life. That on top of the company doing everything they could to avoid even the slightest level of responsibility for the situation. It was quite reasonably suggested in the comments section that I get a lawyer.

Believe me, I tried. First around town and then later elsewhere within the state. My initial assumption was simply that my employer had the entire town in their pocket, like something out of a 1920s story about company towns housing coal miners.

It actually turned out to be something even worse. In 2014, lobbyists for big business persuaded the Tennessee state legislature to all but do away with Workman’s Compensation protections within the state. The only way a person has a prayer of getting any money from an on the job injury is if they’re killed or dismembered.

In fact, per those changes, even death or dismemberment are problematic for any claimant (or their survivors):

C. An injury causes death, disablement or the need for medical treatment only if it has been shown to a reasonable degree of medical certainty that it contributed more than fifty percent (50%) in causing the death, disablement or need for medical treatment, considering all causes;

Net result: every decent sized company has unethical doctors in their pocket who will find a way to blame the condition on something else. In my specific case, it was blamed on pre-existing arthritis and a completely fabricated previous injury. Lawyers can rarely do anything to help the general public with any sort of workman’s compensation problem in Tennessee.

Tennessee also has a rule that says any workplace injury must be reported and seen by a company approved doctor within 7 days (that’s if I recall the time correctly, it MIGHT be 14 days), and if you go to an outside doctor, the workman’s comp is forfeit. One of my coworkers was turned away three times within that 7 days and was forced to go see an outside doctor to prevent losing his foot. Why in the hell he’s even still with the company is completely beyond me.

The Death of the House Drama

Long time readers will recall my spouse and I got screwed on a house purchase in neighboring Georgia. It all started almost 2 years ago with our realtor, the home inspector and the seller all conspiring to hide defects (a few were major) and other pertinent information like water and power easements on both sides of the house.

We had to work like hell to find a lawyer. Most didn’t want to put in the work. Ambulance chasing is easier after all. Georgia also has a “caveat emptor” set of laws for house sales. It takes actual work to undo a screw job. Even moreso if you’re talking about the corrupt backwaters of the state outside of the 13 metro county greater Atlanta area.

Long story short, the lawyers defending the home inspector’s insurance company even went so far as to argue hiring the home inspector was NOT due diligence and there was no detrimental reliance on the inspector after he represented himself as an expert. In the end, despite pictures showing the court that the Inspector had grossly misrepresented the condition of the house, AND that the Inspector’s company didn’t have a business license or tax ID on file with the state (meaning they’re not paying taxes)… The judge ruled that there was no fraud involved, that there were no other issues and threw the case out.

There’s the far right’s idea of making America great again for you.

Left, Right… It’s ALL the Same.

I lived in California and watched the state government flaunt federal law on immigration when federal law is supposed to supercede state and local. California was even part of the coalition that pushed the federal government during the Obama administration to block Arizona from making it’s own immigration and border control policies.

I also watched California allows forests to become overgrown, catch fire thanks to PG&E not maintaining their power lines, and then blame the fires on climate change. Likewise I saw Sacramento county openly violate state law and push a tax increase into effect after it was voted down during the 2020 election cycle. That’s just fort starters.

The bottom line is the entire system is completely broken. The only difference is who is benefitting from all the corruption. In left leaning states, it’s the corporations (like PG&E and Tesla) that back the Democrats and give them kickbacks. In MAGA territory, it’s old money and the good old boys network throwing money at Republicans.

In both cases, it’s the general public that gets screwed. In both cases, the politicians and by extension their corporate cronies, avoid any fallout for their robbing the treasury and hurting the public by playing them off against the other party and their supporters. It’d all be good if we just got rid of those evil bastards on the other side!

The bigger problem isn’t the politicians though. It’s not even the corporations. It’s the mentally lazy public that’s too concerned with sports and reality TV to even think about what they’re being shoveled.

It’s as true now as it was during the holocaust.

I guess I lucked out. I had a high school history and sociology teacher that taught his students to question everything. A far cry from today’s schools that train sheeple. Luck is all relative though when you’re watching Western civilization destroy itself over ego driven fear and and anger… and can foresee the long term consequences.

The Future of the Blog:

I’ve branched off in several directions over the years as I’ve tried to find something that I could write about and entertain my readership. The trouble has always been I’ve been writing from a place of fear (of losing readers or not having enough depth of knowledge on any given topic), so I haven’t brought a high enough level of authenticity to the blog.

There’s been quite a bit of anger over personal events that’s spilled over into the blog as well. I’ve tried to avoid it, but stress is a bitch and if my life was any bigger a train wreck, it’d be a telenovela.

Well, I’m going to be working hard at getting the personal life in order, AND to try to avoid any stress from spilling over into here. Without a calm, rational presentation, I’m just one of an infinite number of angry voices out there, and indistinguishable from all of the empty headed hate.

Content-wise, I’ll almost certainly mix it up to a degree, but I want to primarily focus on commentary on what I see going on. I also want to start going into all the communications tricks and other forms of subtle manipulation that I see being used everywhere today. My hope is that once more people are aware of them, that they will be on guard against them and be able to make some value judgments about the people and organizations that use them.

Still I Rise

Just a quick post for those wondering if I died (LOL). The drama (as reported last time) sadly continues. That hasn’t helped my stress level for sure.

Added to that mess, I got carpal tunnel syndrome in both wrists due to my job and it’s inflexibility about work assignments. It’s kept me down for the last few months. Work finally sent me out for X-Rays a week back, and they’re trying to pass it off as arthritis. *rolleyes*

Never mind I’ve never had a lick of trouble out of my hands despite a ton of typing and otherwise working with my hands in the past. Never mind there’s no inflammation accompanying the alleged arthritis. Never mind several inconsistencies there actually.

The X-RAYS (without any dye administered) supposedly picked up tendon damage on the right hand and they sent me for MRI verification on that hand only (the Left is now supposedly my problem). The MRIs turned up a torn ligament and a few severely strained ones due to dislocation.

All of this is hearsay however. Nobody will let me see any of the images or read the reports. My right hand is also in better shape than the left, and it’s the left wrist that hurts, not the fingers where the arthritis was allegedly found.

If it Quacks Like a Duck:

Then it must be a doctor on the take… or outright incompetent.

If that sounds harsh, understand that my experience with medical professionals has been almost as dismal as with laywers. The doctor that wanted to do surgery on my knee decades ago (it got fine on it’s own) was arrested and sent to prison for insurance fraud, for unnecessary surgeries. The oral surgeon that pulled my wisdom teeth left shards of broken teeth in my gums, and my dentist refused to believe me or the X-Rays.

Despite having MRIs and X-Rays showing my back was a train wreck, the state employed medical doctor handling my disability claim denied there was anything wrong with me as well. That worked out for the best, since the spinal decompression I got restored my back and made me active again, BUT that doesn’t change the fact that doctor was only there to deny claims. My lawyer said she was so corrupt I’d have been better going to my disability hearing without seeing her.

And now I’ve got paid stooges working for my employer saying there’s nothing wrong with one hand except a little arthritis, and referring me to some likely hack who will want to chop up my right hand for a fat paycheck from my employer and workman’s comp.

As it stands, I’m under medical orders to not use my right hand for anything. Good thing my employers don’t read WordPress, LOL.

Taking time off to allow the wrists to heal is why I’ve been away, and likely will have a limited presence for the near future.

International Holocaust Remembrance Day

OK, so Thay Paul made me a liar about my last post. With a rise in antisemitism and holocaust deniers it’s important to remember what happened though. This one is worth reblogging as I figure out what I’m doing next

Thay Paul's Notes

27th January 2023

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Writing Talk: Continuity and Long-Term Consequences

Recently, a few friends, writing collaborators and I have been batting around plot ideas. Time travel in particular became a topic of discussion. I already did a post on the subject, so I’m uncertain how much bears repeating here. There was also a great post by Stephanie O’Brien at another blog yesterday about potential pitfalls of time travel as a MacGuffin.

With that in mind, I thought I might delve into the seemingly oft overlooked subject of continuity and consequences of writer and character decisions. Working them out can make a big difference in how plausible your story is.

Character Overreactions:

Yes, those kind of insane interactions are common in anime, but they should be used sparingly in most other settings. Those of you who have followed me for a while know I love picking on the CW Network as an example of this.

Ever since Buffy, the network has been obsessed with character angst and relationship conflicts. The over-use of such was the only thing I didn’t like about Buffy and Angel. Both were great shows in every other regard. The early seasons of the “Arrowverse” shows were particularly bad also. Fights and making amends that happened so fast due to quicker story pacing that they stretched credibility. I’d argue they outright shattered it the way it happened repeatedly and characters never seemed to learn and grow beyond it.

That’s the key problem. Characters that don’t learn and grow as part of the storytelling process. Even after repeated lessons, they don’t trust their allies, feel they have to go it alone, refuse to understand where a friend or loved one is coming from, etc… If you removed the action and special effects that served as distractions, these characters are the kind of people you’d declare horrible friends and kick to the curb in real life.

Granted, growth has to be paced, particularly if you’re planning a series of books or something ongoing like a web comic. Characters that never learn from their mistakes, especially relationship ones, run the risk of becoming two dimensional with readers though.

LAST Post:

Yep, no hyperbole. After seeing that my alternate blog housing more adult content consistently pulled more views and likes by far FOR A YEAR AND A HALF straight with 1/16th the subscribers and ABSOLUTELY NO posting on my part, I’m hanging it up here.

Any time I’m around the blog, I’ve spent 2 or more hours a day, trying to keep up with the numerous blogs I’ve followed (around 200). Look at the total count of deleted emails I have in my Outlook account… One that I use EXCLUSIVELY for notifications for this blog.

And yet people don’t understand why I bitch about the selfish nature of the bloggers here; caring NOTHING for genuine networking, only how many likes their own blogs can get. THAT, up there, that’s TRYING to network.

I’ve already recently unfollowed several people who post 5 or more times a day, but can’t be bothered with anyone else’s blog. ZERO give and take.

At this point, it’s not worth the aggravation anymore. 2+ hours a day trying to network. AT LEAST 1 hour a day for researching and writing a single blog post… For what? Zero views and 1 fake “Like” given via the WordPress Reader without actually opening the post? THAT is what I’m spending 1/8th of my day for?

THIS is what the WordPress “community” has been reduced to?

I’ll doubtless keep the account, so I can follow and comment on Joanne, Sheree and Candice… Avigail as well. Beyond that, I’ll be shutting the blog down completely once I’ve scraped it of content. I’ve done my research the last few days. I know where people have gone to and I know where I’m going.

The End.

Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays

A quick reblog from last year since I’m worn out today. 🙂

Silk Chatters

Last post for today. 🙂 It’s already Christmas on the other side of the international date line though, so it seems appropriate to send general well wishes now.

Merry Christmas to all, and wishes for a fabulous time if you celebrate some other holiday. 🙂

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Am I Back?

7 months since my last post… I’m not going to apologize for the absence either. It’s been a fairly brutal time.

The house situation that occupied so many of my posts the last year is now close to resolved. Evil won also, as it almost always does nowadays.

The mortgage company foreclosed on the house, it was supposed to go up for auction 3 days ago but we haven’t heard anything YET. It’s a double edged sword at this point. If they didn’t cover the balance, we’ll be forced into bankruptcy. IF they did, Then we will be free and clear at the expense of somebody else being defrauded by the mortgage company.

Make no mistake also. The reason the mortgage company chose to sell it at auction vs listing it with a realtor is because there’s no legal obligation to disclose ANYTHING to a buyer when a house is sold at auction. This allows the bank to make as much money as possible and to screw over any buyer.

Truth? If it’s some developer or professional house flipper, I don’t care if they got screwed. Speculators and REIT (Real Estate Investment Trust) people are responsible for much of the insane inflation in home prices. They don’t care that they’re pricing a growing portion of the population out of the market, only how much money they can make in the process.

THEN… There Was the F’ing Lawyer

What do you call a hundred dead lawyers at the bottom of the ocean?

If you’ve heard that joke before, you probably recall the answer being “A good start”. At this point, I’d call it an environmental disaster. THAT is how little I think of lawyers anymore.

Ours took 10 months, and had only accomplished managing to lose a default judgment motion hearing regarding one of the defendants (the home inspection company) blowing off the lawsuit and refusing to respond to it. At the 10 month mark, we wrote him expressing our concern that he hadn’t even gotten initial discovery filed yet with one party, AND the other party replied to discovery saying that they couldn’t answer it because several key documents were missing.

He refused to answer anything via email and insisted we come to his office. When we did, he said if we didn’t have any faith in him, we should fire him and then he threw us out of his office.

Well, guess what?

I want to file state and federal BAR complaints against him, but he’d probably just weasel out of everything.

The New Wrinkle / Where To Go From Here?

So a new twist came about while I was playing Everquest 2. I met another player who claims to be a high ranking member of the North Carolina Democrat party’s Progressive Caucus. He offered to help with our situation and made a phone call or two.

So far nothing back from his connections (it’s been days), so I expect ZERO will come of it. Politicians, Activists and Lobbyists are all the same in my opinion:

Nothing in it for them, they’re not interested.

It DOES leave the question of where to go next though… Do we try to fight and expose things to the media, etc? Is there any point to that? The house is sold and the statute of limitations has run on the lawsuit, so even if we could find the one in a trillion lawyer who wasn’t afraid of work, we’re out of luck there.

I’d have to erase nearly everything house related here and create a separate site. Nobody is going to take a wannabe author who tried to use erotica to jump start their career seriously. It’d outright be weaponized against us. Everything nowadays is the politics of personal destruction after all.

Anymore, I’m feeling like the world doesn’t want saving nor remotely care what’s right or decent. Everybody is too busy looking for a free ride and to blame others for the problems they helped create themselves.

So am I back? I don’t know. The burnout factor now is massive. I felt like the blog here had a Return on Investment in negative numbers even before I disappeared as well.