Frustrations

Frustrations have once again kept me from doing any posting here.

First, let me get my warning out of the way; RANT ahead!

At first, I thought it was annoyance over cutting ties with the person I used to collaborate with on my Witchfire stories. Well, sort of collaborate. We tried to create a shared world with some crossovers for our stories. That ended over their insistence upon demonizing anyone they disagreed with politically or socially, and me saying one time too often to look at other POVs and not stereotype entire groups just because a media talking head and their sheeple said so.

So many of the problems in society today are caused by people on BOTH sides of various issues having blinders on like that. Sadly most of them are otherwise decent people. They just can’t be bothered to work past their personal biases. Too easy to hate because somebody told them that their personal problems are the fault of that group over there. Old trick though; it’s worked for Hitler, groups like the Proud Boys, and the FAR Left as well. “Hate! Fear! Follow me blindly! I’ll lead you to salvation”.

95% of the time these would-be saviors are only exploiting people for their own selfish ends by playing off one group against another.

Need I say it AGAIN?!? Judge people as INDIVIDUALS instead of using group-think and blindly applying labels that promote conflict and division.

AND THEN THERE WAS THE BLOG…

First, let me say I hate some of the new changes to WordPress. Even using a spacer insert is harder now since there’s no box, just a little circle now that you move up and down. The (picture) cropping and resize tool doesn’t work for me. They’ve even done away with the ability to select specific font size from a drop down. Now it has to be keyed in if you want to change it. Every “improvement” to the block editor seems to make it a bigger mess.

Some sort of background changes have me locked out of replying to or even liking half the blogs I follow AGAIN. This is the third or fourth time it’s happened since I started here. If I haven’t liked or commented in your blog in a while and I usually do, that’s very likely why. This change no doubt so WP can data mine blogs more easily.

Then we get back to PEOPLE as relates to blogging…

First, there’s my ongoing gripe over USERS masquerading as followers. If you’re doing THIS, you’re not reading and you don’t care about anything anyone else has to write about:

Doing that regularly just says you’re only using people to gain followers and pad your fragile ego. It’s happening increasingly from people who I’ve made effort to genuinely interact with on WP too, or at least used to. And I’m talking them doing 20+ likes in 1 or 2 minutes. I have a few pics of THAT also. I figured 8 likes was enough to make the point though.

If you don’t have time to read and have no desire to do so, just don’t reply instead of using people for your vanity. I’d rather have 5 followers like Refarmer, Joanne the Geek, Sheree, BigSkyBuckeye and a few others who will actually read, than have 10,000 fraud followers.

Then there’s another issue that’s been simmering for a long time also; appeasement and self censorship. I left and loudly denounced Twitter for similar experiences, but really WP isn’t all that different in a few regards. I speak out against some of the heavy handed aspects of the SJW movement (even though I support the overall movement / idea), then I’m evil. I have to push anything spiritual over to another blog because I might offend religious people. Can’t believe in chi and God after all *rolleyes*

Same idea with some of my adult writing. I sort of give that one a partial pass as I don’t want people to have to worry about anything vaguely NSFW here, and WP is absolutely one of the worst sites out there for providing any sort of age check tool for that kind of content. Even just an “Are you 18?” button pop-up would be nice!

Maybe NextDoor.com is a better overall comparison. Can’t write anything there other than garage sales and recipes without offending somebody. I’ve felt increasingly the same way here.

Write about self-defense or martial arts, you’re violent.

Talk about RESPONSIBLE gun ownership (and I have a very negative opinion of some gun owners), and you’re going to go out and do a mass shooting.

OK, enough said. The point is I’m sick to freaking death of judgy fucks presuming they know what others are thinking and feeling, AND that said judging fucks have the imagined godlike wisdom to tell others with absolute certainty how to live their lives or even what they should say. Yes, I’m sick of the “this means you’re a that and need to change NOW” crowd.

I’m NOT advocating people be allowed nor encouraged to run around acting like asses with no filter either. Can’t we find a happy medium though?

Truth; I’m frustrated at feeling like I can’t be me. I’m shutting away and compartmentalizing pieces of me to try to appease people who are never going to read my writing or buy any book I write anyway.

I’m not sure how quick I’m going to really get back to posting “full time” here again. I do know that when I start though, I’m going to be more ME. Politics I will still refuse to cover. The waters there are just too muddied, the real truth too hard to find and I think everyone is corrupt. Adult content is staying at SilksErotica.

Anything else is one the table though. I’ll do my best to discuss topics in an intelligent, calm manner. I’ll try to be positive and upbeat too. Trust me, I’m sick of bitchy posts here

Don’t like a particular subject in the future? I’ll make sure the headlines are clear so you can bypass it. That, and a return to days having regular topics, are as good as you’ll get.

25 thoughts on “Frustrations

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  2. joanne the geek

    Yes blogging can have a lot of frustrations, with WordPress. As soon as I get used to their changes (or as used to them as I’m ever going to be) they go and change everything again… Yeh I also get those people that like 20 odd posts or more in one go, they can’t really be reading them can they?

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  3. rebecca s revels

    I’ve gotten that as well. Just as I finish going through all of the notifications and seeing what has been shared, my email shows forty new messages. All are likes. I know there is such as thing as speed reading. I know that I try to keep my blogs at a certain length, but there is no human way possible to read that many that quickly. I’ve been tempted to toss in something really out there just to prove it was never read, but then I figured what was the point.

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    1. Silk Cords Post author

      I had a book on speed reading many years ago, it’s essentially just fast skimming, You spot the main noun and verb in a sentence, and move on, filling in the blanks mentally. Needless to say, there’s a ton of room for misinterpretation in that technique. But yeah, there’s just NO way to read 20 posts in 2 minutes. The flood of email and WP notifications is annoying too, as you said. It pushes down notifications from people who actually care about what’s written.

      I try to keep my blog posts short enough to read in a couple of minutes and when I am actively posting, no more than 3 a day normally to respect peoples’ schedules.

      I’ve been tempted to toss something outrageous out there also; “hit like if you support pedophiles or nazis” or something like that, BUT I don’t want to even be accidentally / falsely accused of supporting groups like that.

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      1. rebecca s revels

        Understood. I have used that process of skimming posts, but when I reach something that truly catches my attention I will back up and read more consciously. Because I don’t want to accidentally be supporting anything like you mentioned.

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  4. Aintamuggle

    Ahhh, I get you. I am pretty new here so might not understand it fully. But all I can say is, this is a lovely place and even though some algorithm and notifications are misplaced, writing has given me direction. Sorry, i got a bit carried away here.

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    1. Silk Cords Post author

      That’s hardly a bit carried away. 🙂 I’d consider it a fairly concise, well written comment.

      Writing is great, I get alot from it also. As far as the things like bloggers treating WordPress like a popularity contest where they trade likes and follows while never reading anyone… You’ll see what I mean in time. Hopefully it never bothers you as much as it does me. I just prefer authentic people, and if *I* follow somebody, it’s because I genuinely like what they’re doing.

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  5. richardbist

    Regarding WordPress, I’ve been using the classic editor plugin. Simple, basic, and it does what I need it to do.

    I get your other frustrations, too. Interactions seem to be getting more toxic, fragile egos and an ‘is against them’ mentality is taking its toll. I think that’s made me appreciate lockdown more. I’m quite happy being an introvert. 🙂

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    1. Silk Cords Post author

      I’m not sure that’s an option for me, I’ll have to look into it. Being hosted on WP.com and a free account, I get the shaft on more than a few features. Not like their fancy new layout designs for the blockhead editor work anyway, lol

      I’d go WP software on an independent site if I had the money. The toxicity and egomania… Enough said. 🙂

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  6. coffeebeanjen

    The frustrations with WordPress is why I chose to leave and build my own site. Not finished yet, but I can code everything my way. I can say what I damn well please. I paid for wordpress because they claimed I could write my own code if I paid. Every time I tried it screamed YOU CAN’T DO THAT! What the hell am I paying for then?
    I can say it is worth the money for a domain name, 10$ a yr at whois.com-always buy the name separately so you can choose a web host that suits you, or get rid of one that doesn’t meet your needs. I paid 96$ for 4 years webhosting at hostinger.com I have been very pleased with the features there. If you don’t code they have free CMS’s and affordable options for something fancier.
    A little CSS goes a long way for a blog. I’m getting more writing done as a result of not worrying about breaking word press, which is slow and clunky. I control the layout of my pages. I don’t have to wait an hour for word press to load to write a blog. External style sheet and there it is. I don’t have to worry about offending people, or violating terms of service . Your own site is worth the cost.

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    1. Silk Cords Post author

      It’s definitely something I need to look into once I’m working again. The only major problem there is that I wouldn’t have WordPress spreading news of my posts around. How will I get people to hit and run like what I write without reading? O_o

      Seriously though, as I mentioned in the post, I really would at least have an age verification button on the other blog. You’d think WP could do THAT much

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    1. Silk Cords Post author

      I think I’ve said it before, but at this point I wish WP would do like other publishing sites and software, and just make a clone of MS Publisher or Word.

      Are those ideal? No, but they’re probably as close as you’re going to get to a one size fits all, and since M$ is everywhere, people are generally familiar with the products. Either way, just give me the option to put a text box here, a picture box there, etc… REAL layout control!

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  7. Re-Farmer

    Wow! I am totally honoured to have made your short list!

    I’ve been having similar issues with WP for a while, but most of them were solved when I started using the SeaMonkey browser – until about a week or two ago. Now, for some reason, when I try to start a new post, the editor simply won’t load. I’ll watch at the bottom bar of the browser as it going through “…TLS handshake… ” and “… waiting for…” until it’s done and..

    Nothing. The browser window is blank. I can look at my stats, upload to the media section and see every other part of my site, and even open a draft and work on it, but I can’t start a new post. It simply won’t load.

    After trying many different things, I’ve found the only browser that works is Chrome, and it still has some of those issues with trying to like or comment. *sigh*

    I totally get you with the “people” thing! LOL I mostly see that on Facebook (I don’t do Twitter), as I try to keep my blog neutral and on topic. People have become incredibly polarized, which I suppose is not that much of a surprise, but I think the “safety” of the internet has made people much more wiling to be cruel.

    I’ve seriously considered starting another blog to write about a more diverse range of topics, but I barely have time to post on my current blog, and haven’t been able to keep up on blogs I follow – I just don’t have the time to spend on the computer right now. There’s no way I’d have time to work on another blog, too!

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    1. Silk Cords Post author

      Well, I’ve come to the conclusion regarding other blogs, that it’s just better to roll everything into one as opposed to worrying about somebody not liking a portion of your content. For me, the classic example has been avoiding anything “new agey” in my blog. I spun off a separate blog for talking about being an empath and other ‘tales of weirdness’ so as not to offend people with more traditional religious values, and I *STILL* can count on one finger the number of said people who regularly view and comment in my blog. Aesop’s fable was right, there’s no pleasing everyone.

      The idea that a blog has to be niche to succeed… Meh, I think it helps, BUT I’ve done fine as a sort of personal blog here. Besides, as a sort of jack of all trades, I don’t have the in-depth knowledge to write an expert blog on any given topic.

      Chrome: It works well with everything because it has zero privacy. Like EVERY Google product, it’s designed for maximum data mining regardless of what Google’s recent ad campaigns say.

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      1. Re-Farmer

        I used to have a blog on Blogger where I talked about anything and everything. Then we moved again, life took some unusual turns, and now I can’t even log into it anymore.

        And yeah… I would rather not be using Chrome at all, but I literally cannot create new posts on any of my other browsers, because the editor doesn’t work properly on them.

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        1. Silk Cords Post author

          I’m actually thinking about moving the adult oriented blog over to Blogger because it SEEMS they have an actual “sensitive content” pop-up warning, which isn’t available here. Staying within the rules here doesn’t necessarily mean you’ll stay out of trouble, and that lack of any sort of basic screening here bothers me.

          Chrome… WELL… At least if you’re aware of the limitations, you can keep it’s actual use down to a minimum. It bothers me though because this is becoming more and more of a problem across the internet as companies become obsessed with analytics.

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          1. Re-Farmer

            It’s been so long since I’ve done anything on Blogger, I don’t even know anymore. Google didn’t even own it yet, when I started my first blogs. That’s part of why I can’t get back into them. I didn’t have any gmail addresses back then. It wants me to confirm my ownership of the blogs through google, but won’t recognise my outlook email address – which had been a hotmail address when I first started!

            The privacy issues are a major problem. It’s why I’ve been wanting to use SeaMonkey or Tor, but a lot of sites don’t work right with them.

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            1. Silk Cords Post author

              Tor, IIRC is intended for torrenting, so I’m not surprised it’s being interfered with IF I’m remembering right. And yeah, I forgot about Google buying out Blogger back in 2003 until after I made that last reply. So much for that… Granted they probably data mine the hell out of WP also via web crawlers, BUT why make it even easier for them?

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  8. bigskybuckeye

    Sometimes it just feels better to empty both barrels in your discussion. While my posts probably seem better suited as vanilla ice cream, I can always find something in your posts to wake myself up. Hang in there. As for WordPress, I just to keep my formatting as simple (yes, vanilla) as possible.

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    1. Silk Cords Post author

      Actually I admire your ability to keep a pleasant disposition (at least here, lol) no matter what seems to be going on. Me… I have… growth opportunities, LOL.

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